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Losing a loved one is one of the most painful experiences you will ever go through. Unfortunately, it is also when you are most vulnerable to high-pressure sales tactics.

The median cost of a funeral with a viewing and burial is now $8,300. While most funeral directors are compassionate professionals, the industry is a business, and it is designed to upsell you on products that promise “dignity” and “protection” but deliver little more than a higher bill.

The most powerful tool you have in this situation is the FTC Funeral Rule. This federal law gives you the right to an itemized price list and the freedom to buy goods from third parties. Before you sign a contract, knowing which “upgrades” are actually unnecessary markups can save your family thousands of dollars.

Here are four things industry experts say you should stop buying directly from the funeral home.

If you walk into a showroom, you will likely see caskets labeled as “protective” or “gasketed.” These metal caskets feature a rubber seal designed to keep elements out. They cost significantly more than non-sealed models, often hundreds extra. The sales pitch implies that this seal preserves the body.

The reality is grim. By locking out air, these gaskets create an anaerobic environment. This traps moisture and bacteria inside, which can actually accelerate decomposition and turn the body into slush.

In the industry, this is known as exploding casket syndrome — where built-up gas pressure causes the casket to warp or burst.

The better move: Skip the seal. A standard wood or non-gasketed metal casket allows for natural dehydration, which is often arguably more “dignified” than the alternative.

Most cemeteries require you to put the casket inside a concrete box to prevent the ground from caving in as heavy mowing equipment drives over it. This basic box is called a grave liner, and it typically costs between $700 and $1,000.

However, funeral directors will often steer you toward a sealed burial vault. These are reinforced with metal or plastic liners and can cost $2,000 to over $6,000. The pitch is that they are water-resistant and protect the casket.

But remember: You are putting a box in the ground. Water will eventually get in, and concrete will eventually fail. The expensive vault is essentially a concrete upsell that performs the exact same structural function as the cheaper liner.

The better move: Ask specifically for a “gravity-fed concrete grave liner.” If the funeral home doesn’t sell them, the cemetery usually does.

Many families believe embalming is required by law. It is not.

While laws vary slightly by state, embalming is rarely mandatory unless you are transporting the body across state lines or delaying the funeral for an extended period. For a standard direct burial or cremation, it is completely unnecessary.

If you want a viewing, you still might not need it. Many funeral homes offer “private family viewings” without embalming, utilizing refrigeration instead. Embalming adds $800 to $1,200 to your bill.

The better move: Ask for refrigeration. It serves the same preservation purpose for the short term and costs a fraction of the price.

See also: What to Do When a Loved One Dies

This is the single biggest markup in the funeral industry. Funeral homes often mark up caskets by 300% to 500%. That “modest” metal casket listed for $3,400 on the showroom floor might cost the funeral home only $800 wholesale.

Under the Funeral Rule, you have the absolute right to buy a casket from a third party — like Costco or a local independent retailer — and have it shipped to the funeral home. The funeral director cannot charge you a handling fee or refuse the delivery.

The better move: Check prices online before you visit the funeral home. Costco sells high-quality caskets for as low as $1,350, including shipping. You could save $2,000 instantly just by clicking “Add to Cart.”

When you walk into a funeral home, the first thing you must ask for is the General Price List (GPL). The law requires them to hand it to you. This list reveals the a la carte prices for every item, preventing them from hiding fees in “bundled” packages.

You can honor your loved one deeply and respectfully without spending a fortune on rubber gaskets and watertight concrete. Save that money for the living, or donate it to a cause the deceased cared about — that’s a legacy that actually lasts.